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A Father's Story

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Jeff had hit bottom as a son, absolute bottom, and I could feel that he was taking me down with him, dragging me into the utter chaos that he had made of his life, and doing it publicly. Instead of scrolling through your social media news feed, this is a much better way to spend your spare time in my opinion. For the most part, Jeff was a fairly average kid, who grew into a awkward teen whose alcoholism went unnoticed by his parents who were distracted by their own problems.

In that sense, I'm not sure Lionel's insights into Jeff are particularly worthwhile in terms of what they reveal about Jeff, but they are certainly worthwhile in terms of what the reveal about him and about human nature in general.But as we both separately realized, even this light, generally relaxing activity, so common among ordinary people at the end of the working day, was now filled with extreme and unavoidable tension for us. The family's struggle to reconcile the son and brother they knew with the monstrous actions he committed is movingly depicted. The police were then summoned, and while Sinthasomphone(the underage victim) labored to recover, they asked him where he'd gotten the drug. It's heartbreaking and of course covers all the obvious and familiar terrain of how gut-wrenchingly awful Dahmer's crimes were, but with an added twist (i.

He contemplates if his son was born with a predilection towards violence or if circumstances in his upbringing may have precipitated it. His father sees many similarities between himself and his son: both are emotionally distant, fear abandonment, like to control people and feel inadequate. and slimy, ham-fisted attempts to place the blame for Jeffrey's behaviour on anybody else but him-- particularly his first wife, the fragile and quite-obviously emotionally bullied birth mother of his son's, Lionel gives us less an insight into his son's psyche than a pure view of a father and husband of stunning emotional disassociation: a weak, deluded, egotistical and loathsome little man whose multiple failings read like a litany of dissemblances and pitiful excuses.He actually suggests and seems to believe in that moment that without a belief in God there is nothing to deter someone from hurting others. Jeffery Dahmer developed a drinking problem in high school, but his father seems oblivious to this and many other things. On July 23, 1991, Milwaukee chemist Lionel Dahmer discovered - along with the rest of the world - that his son Jeffrey was a murderer who, over a period of many years, had carried out some of the most ghastly crimes ever committed in the United States. Partly because one always wants to find answers, even when the formulated questions are so impossible.

The sadness and the inescapable reality of a book like this is that Dahmer, like the rest of us, will never really know what made his son do what he did. This could have been a great revelation into how father and son interacted and if Lionel had fully delved into his relationship with his son, I would have been interested. what's unexpected is the candor, humility, and thoughtfulness of his account, and the little ways in which its genuine strangeness bypasses "shock value.we are the space of our isolation, we are the space defined within our limits, the limits change, the isolation remains. The lies brought out by this book are great for psychology and analyzing, but the book left me with an unpleasant feeling of disgust and slime. How do you cope when finding out the life your son has led is not only different, but one that will attach him to infamy? Lionel Dahmer's memoir about fatherhood and Jeffrey's childhood has helped me a lot to understand myself, my childhood, and my personality better once again.

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